Now What?

Yesterday, November 8, 2016, was the presidential election to find our 45th President of the United States of America. The candidates were Secretary of State, Hillary Rodham Clinton, and Donald Trump, who is best (and most kindly) described as a reality star and businessman.
Yesterday, I voted for Hillary Clinton, the first female presidential candidate. As I cast my ballot, I believed in my heart that in a few hours, the world would witness history, as the first female was elected to our highest office in the United States.
The world witnessed history, but it was not the story America wanted to write. Donald Trump is now our president elect.
Jeremy Nix, a fellow Huffington Post blogger, wrote,“Differences of political ideals are one thing, I can agree to disagree on many matters across a wide array of topics, but racism isn’t one of them, neither is hate, neither is the belittling of women or the judgment of others based on their appearance or their disability, or their sexual preference.” 
You see, Mr. Trump promises to "Make America Great Again."
But, a "great America" is not one where a man with no government or military experience who has called for nuclear proliferation is the one running the show.
A "great America" is not one where basic civll rights are denied.
Where women, LGBTQ, immigrants, Muslims, or people of color are not seen as equal, and where their freedoms, which are the same as any other American, are threatened.
Where people are mocked for their physical disability.
Where bragging about committing sexual assault is OK.
Where entire religious groups are banned from entering the country.
Where people aren't offered a better opportunity for themselves because they come from a country where they are raped, assaulted and otherwise oppressed on a regular basis.
Where children are shown that it's OK to bully, berate and belittle those who do not look or act like them.
I don't know much, but I 100% know and believe that these things are not what will "make America great again."
I do believe that not everyone who voted for Trump did so because they believe the bigoted things he says and does. I have to believe this, as close friends and even family members, voted for him.
I know people want change. I don't agree that Trump is the change America needs, and to be honest, I don't know that Hillary was the answer, either. But what I do know is that America needs a leader to bring them together, not further drive us apart.
I don't write about politics. I barely speak about them. But I can't stay silent. I have never felt so empty inside, so disappointed, heartbroken and scared. I have never felt this way in a political election, and it's difficult to wrap my head around all of this.
What's done is done and no matter what I write, or where I write it, it is not going to change what happened last night.
This morning, my son woke up and after I dried fresh tears, I went in to get him up. "HI!" he yelled. I am so thankful for his innocence, but even more scared about what his future looks like.
The only thing I can feel good about right now is that I will continue to love everyone, and teach my children to do the same.
I will continue to be a responsible member of a civic society, to educate myself, and teach my children to do the same.
I will be a stronger, better advocate for the causes that are important to me, and I will teach my children to do the same.
I will remain steadfast in my belief that America IS great, do my part to keep it that way, and teach my children to do the same.
If anything, this election showed that America is more deeply divided than we thought. It feels as though we have hit rock bottom, and that means that the only place to go now, is up. Perhaps this break in our world and our spirit will show us that now, more than ever, we have to come together. We can choose to treat each other a little kinder, with more compassion, understanding, love, acceptance and empathy. Each of us can take actions, small or large ,to ensure that all human lives are valued and are treated with respect and dignity.

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Rodan + Fields Giveaway: Enter to Win Lip Serum or Eye Cream

It's been a few months since I've done a giveaway, and since the last one was so much fun, I want to do it again!

This month's prizes are another jar of Multi-Function Eye Cream ($60 value) and Redefine Lip Serum. There will be two winners - one winner for each product.


Our Multi-Function eye cream is a great all-around eye cream that utilizes peptides to visibly reduce the appearance of crow's feet, dark circles and puffiness, and noticeably brightens your eye area with optical filters that reflect light. It's one of our most popular products, and one jar often lasts approximately 6 months, if not more!
Our Redefine Lip Serum is also amazing! Rich with peptides and antioxidants, including vitamin E, Lip Serum helps lips retain their natural moisture, visibly smooth lip texture and reduce the appearance of lip wrinkles. One capsule has 2-3 uses in it and I just put it on right before bed! Your lips will never feel the same.

There are three ways to enter - do all three, and you'll get entered three times! There is no purchase necessary to win.

To enter:
  1. Find out which regimen is right for you with this 30-second perSKINality quiz and email yourself the results. You must email yourself the results to count 1 entry. (1 entry)
  2. Take the skin quiz (compete with emailing yourself the results), and tell me your results in the comments below. (3 entries)
  3. Share my giveaway on Facebook! (5 entries)
Winners will be announced this Friday, August 26, and is open to new and existing customers. 

Good luck!
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Oh, hey.

Hey guys! It's me. I'm here. I'm alive!

You may—or likely may not—have noticed that I've abandoned my piece of the Internet as of late. You've read this post before. It's getting old. Or at least, it's getting old for me to write it.

The truth is, I can't do it all. I can't pretend anymore that I can.

I am working a full-time job and a part-time job. In fact, the former, my boss actually informed me that I'm currently doing the workload of 1.5 people. I am a full-time mom, and full-time wife. And if those things aren't enough, I'm also TRYING to relax every once in awhile, or to accomplish things that aren't on a computer, like getting our house ready to put on the market, purging our place, etc etc. Something's had to give, and sadly, it's been this blog.

That said. I miss writing. Writing has always, will always, be my outlet and in the past month I've been gone, I have noticed the absence of writing on my heart. I've been more stressed, more negative, more all things bad and I hate that.

So, I have no real point to this blog in particular, except that I needed to put some words on a page tonight. I'm a weird place right now where things in life are really awesome and at the same really stressful. But I wrote that and know in my heart that this too shall pass, and that while my problems are so small in comparison to others, they are still mine and I'm entitled to feel how I do.

This is all really vague, I realize. I'm sorry.

Anyway. I'm here, I'm alive, I'm fine and I just wanted to say hi.


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Farrell Family Vacay: Arizona Recap

The summer kicked off Memorial Day weekend when we took a family vacation to Tucson, Arizona. Bryan and I always travel this weekend because our anniversary (May 28) always falls on this weekend. Our first anniversary, we went to Wine Country.  We've also hit Savannah, Puerto Rico and Key West, FL.

We were hesitant on whether or not to bring Liam, but ultimately decided it was going to be a blast as a family, so off we went. Liam was AMAZING on the airplane!



We stayed at the beautiful Westin Paloma, which I would recommend to anyone. It was a gorgeous property with multiple restaurants, nice rooms, and great pools that were good for families and kids. Plus they had a Kid's Club, where you could bring the kiddies for $12 so you could go to the adult pool or perhaps the gym, or just take a nap. It was amazing, and we wish we would have taken advantage more than we did!



We took a TON of pictures, and they are all packed in here. Enjoy!

We went to Zoo Nights, which was awesome and so much cooler and less packed than being there during the day! We got to feed giraffes, see elephants and Liam went on his first carousel ride!






We checked out the Air and Space Museum, and then hit up a local winery to celebrate our anniversary. (Which we didn't even realize it was our anniversary until about noon. We thought our anniversary was the next day!)








We went to the Desert Museum one night and walked around. More animals and lots of desert life!







Bryan and I got a day to ourselves to celebrate our anniversary properly! We utilized the Kid's Club at the hotel and had drinks by the adult pool. Then we had a friend's cousin come and hang out with Liam while we went to a FABULOUS wine tasting at a nearby resort. That night, our friends Katie and John stopped through on their way home to Yuma and it was so fun to see them and hang!







The next day we drove up to Mt. Lemming, which was a quaint little mountain town. We got lunch, ice cream and enjoyed the views!


                    







It was one for the books and a hell of a way to celebrate five years with my hubby!


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Hometown Heros: The Bachelorette Recap

Hey guys. Sorry I missed you last week...things have been chaotic around here with it being the busy summer season! James and Alex went home, which was no surprise to anyone.

HOMETOWNS always promise to deliver on both the drama and the weird factor. For those of you who follow me on SnapChat, I did another Snap story while I watched tonight. (Follow me at rachelzf).

Here's the gist of my thoughts:

Chase's Hometown
I feel like we've gone this whole season without knowing Chase. Who he is, why he's here, what JoJo sees in him. And then tonight we see Chase say more in a 20 minute clip than we've seen the WHOLE season, and guess what? I liked him! He seemed to have a little personality, and he was sweet and down-to-earth, is a little damaged (just what JoJo likes) and of course, is easy on the eyes. WHY have the producers kept him from us until now? I don't think he's winning, but now I'm not as shocked that he's still here.

HOWEVER. Are we really supposed to believe that Chase has never talked to his dad about the divorce and how it affected him until this moment...on national TV...with his fake girlfriend? The "divorce" was definitely Chase's story this date, as it was ALL anyone has talked about. Save it for therapy, guys.


Jordan's Hometown
JoJo is in Chico, California, a faraway land where deer frolic freely. Why can't JoJo stop yelling at the deer?

So much to say about this date, starting with this: Jordan's full of shit and he and JoJo have ZERO chance of lasting. Also, taking JoJo to his high school is SO LAST SEASON! And how boring. I'll never understand the high school nostalgia. If you're wishing for the glory days, then I think that says something about your current state of mind. We're different people in high school than we are as adults, so again...I don't get it. To say nothing of the fact that it was TOTES inappropriate to make out all over the school in front of the children! But the most interesting fact to me was seeing Jordan's high school football pictures. He was also #12! Aaron is #12 for the Packers! Maybe the big family feud is over a football number!?


JoJo keeps pushing the Aaron conversation and Jordan couldn't make it more clear that he's not interested in talking about it. (Are you SURE you don't talk? Are you SURE I'm not going to meet Olivia Munn? Are you SURE?) He even says it doesn't need to be a topic of conversation with his family. So when JoJo and Jordan pull up to his beautiful GREEN house (symbolic for the Green Bay Packers?) to meet the family and Aaron is ALL they talk about...it struck me as odd.

To me, JoJo is not so secretly disappointed that she's not meeting a sports superstar and his celebrity girlfriend, but she insists she just wants to see Jordan happy and she can tell that not having a relationship "hurts" her man. How do you gather, JoJo, considering you've only ever know Jordan as NOT having a relationship with Aaron? If I'm Aaron Rodgers, I'm pissed for my family throwing me under the bus on national TV! I don't know what the story is there, but Aaron isn't looking great. I heard on a podcast I listen to that the Rodgers family didn't like the way Olivia Munn talked openly about her and Aaron's sex life, but that seems like a CRAZY reason to cut ties.

My first impression of Luke Rodgers is that he has 3rd brother syndrome. AKA, he's the worst looking. And their dad? Has the LONGEST (tallest?!) head I think I've ever seen. And why is Darla calling her son "Spicy"?


I still think JoJo picks JoRo, but the fact that every time JoJo talks to him, he tells him that she's scared he's not into this "forever" tells me that her gut is telling her NO. Her vagina and the fame whore within are saying something else.

Robby's Hometown
I can't get into Robby, I just can't. He's too pretty, too preppy, too sleazy. JoJo continues to be worried that it's only been 4 months since he ended his relationship with his girlfriend of 4 years, and she should be. In fact, she basically gave him an out on their date, telling him that she's been in that position before and it's OK if she's just "filling a void." Um. What?

Robby has a huge family full of perfect-looking people and my mom-dar picked up how his mother touched him, which I found inappropriate in a super creepy way. Lingering arm touch type things. Kill me if I touch Liam like that on national TV.

Robby's mom tells him that rumors have been circulating about him and his ex - namely that his ex's roommate is saying he broke up with her to go on show. (BECAUSE HE DID!) Robby immediately tells JoJo, and AGAIN - she gives him an out, basically begging him to tell her "the truth." Anyone else think she's looking for a reason to ditch him?


Luke's Hometown
Back in Texas, JoJo meets up with Luke. My bestie Mandy gave me the blog content gold:
"The only thing with Luke is I feel like he is the human version of Beavis from Beavis and Butt head."
How fucking amazing and spot on is that?! I got a kick out of it, anyway. But yeah, Luke...Luke is too nice for JoJo. She likes drama and bad boys and Luke is not either. Case in point why I think it will come down to Robby or Jordan.


Luke and his family are so sweet to her, Luke (aka the producers) pulls out all the stops for a romantic one-on-one time with JoJo and there's a vibe the whole time that something is off with her. He's pouring her heart out, she's looking away...it was uncomfortable how uncomfortable she was. I think he might be done for and I also think he might be the next Bachelor.

Rose Ceremony
In true Bachelorette form, we've seen previews of JoJo having a complete meltdown at tonight's ceremony. She tells the camera she's getting rid of Luke but in a predictable turn of events, Luke pulls her aside to tell her he's not just FALLING in love with her, but he's IN love with her. Instead of letting him go then and there, she thanks him and let's him think he has a chance.

Does he though? Oh wait, we don't know because, it's TO BE CONFUCKINGTINUED!
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